Relationships

So much of my work centres on relationships. The traditional view of a relationship is generally the one you have with your partner. But that is forgetting that the key relationship we have is with ourselves. We wake up in ourselves and we feel how we feel before anyone else comes into the picture. We don’t need anyone else to say anything before we feel pain, happiness, anger, jealousy, loneliness or hope. There are so many relationships that we have that we may not call relationships – with children, with workmates, with friends – in all of these we have equal rights, and the right to demand respect and dignity. 

To be seen and heard and to see and hear costs nothing but attention in that particular moment. That can only sound dangerous to you if youre married to your PS4 or Netflix.

With my clients, so many of their relationships, with their partners, with their children, with their parents, can feel really broken. We sit together and we do what we can and we see where we are with those. But what I can really work on with you is your relationship with yourself because that is something we can definitely work with and access the resources you need to be the best you can be regardless of other people’s opinions and other people’s moods. 

People talk about you spending 30% of your life asleep or 30% of your life at work, but at the end of the day our bodies are made up of 60% water and we spend 100% of our lives with ourselves. Which makes it more important that we can make ourselves laugh and feel good.

When you come for a session, always remember to bring yourself. That’s something they never remind you when you get off the tube.