Your Life Story

When we talk about our life story, we are talking about one specific version of our lives that we have come to believe over a period of time. It may never have been challenged, it may never have been listened to by a single person.

Often I will say something a client has relayed to me in the past that they have not only forgotten telling me , they’ve also forgotten it ever happened. 

So by that it’s plain to see that we are not only living only one specific version of ourselves, we are only able to deal with as much of our own life experience as we can hold at one time.

We do that about others also – we simply do not have the time and energy to understand everyone we meet fully, and take into account all the information they tell us about themselves. Plus they will also be talking about the specific version of their lives that they have come to believe. 

 So we adopt a heuristic sense of communication that will inform our understanding of the world around us, guided by many thumbnail experiences and recollections.

One of the great benefits of therapy is being able to sit in a room with someone, building trust, and examining their version of their reality. Sometimes some reframing, by introducing a simple understanding of someone else’s reality, can provide empathy and strength and energy in addressing a difficult conversation you need to have , or a challenging family dynamic. Between us, we can take the ingredients you are providing, and move them around to give you space to think and reflect, to see what part you may have played in the events of your life, and what was totally out of your control.

To see who you really are and who you would like to be - to re establish your place and your position in your life - and rewrite your own life story in a way that allows you new understanding of the past. This will allow you to acclimatise to your present and future states, making it easier to make better and clearer decisions for your safety and well being.